The root concept of this lesson is: The single most important ingredient in psychological change is the quality of the relationship between the helper and the person receiving help.
When acting as my own trading coach, the quality of the relationship with myself is paramount.
In this lesson, "visibility" is also a core concept. And I found visibility not easy to internalize or even understand at first. As Brett puts it" All of us have dreams, values, and ideals. How often, however, are these explicitly on our minds? I'm guilty of(as Brett puts it)living mired in routine, day in and day out, estranged from the things that matter most to us: that's a form of in-visibility".
And as he points out next: how can we coach ourselves successfully when we are invisible to ourselves? We must be visible to ourselves and sustain the vision of who we are and what we value. The success of our coaching efforts rest on our ability to sustain visibility and to draw on the magic of a fulfilling relationship with ourselves.
Easier said than done. I am constantly saying negative things to myself, insulting myself and, in general, treating myself like a piece of shit. At least I can admit it. Most people I know live with the self torment and don't even realize that there is another way.
Brett has the solution! And here it is: a simple strategy that can build a positive, visible relationship with my inner trading coach:
Identify a SINGLE trading strength to express as a goal for the coming day's trading.
Is it really that easy?
Let's give it a try in the days ahead with the newly created journal "Good and Bad".
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